'7 Destructive Habits of Incompetent People'

Introductory Notes:
If you would like to experience a wonderful existence, do not occupy yourself with these 7 deathly behaviours that dysfunctional people do.

1 - They Imagine, Speak, & Execute Negative Things.

Yes. They foresee trouble in every opportunity.

They complain that the sun is too hot. They swear at the rain for destroying their  day. They blame the atmosphere  for wrecking their hair.

They believe that everybody is opposing them. They see the problems but never the answers.

Every trivial bit of setback is amplified to the point of catastrophe. They view failures as tragedies. They get disheartened easily, rather than learning from their errors.

They never appear to go forwards, as they are forever afraid to step out of their comfort zones.

 2 - They Act Before They Think.

They proceed, based on instinct or impulsion. If they view something they like, they purchase immediately with no reconsideration.

Then they see something more beneficial. They repent & swear because of not being able to capitalize on the bargain.

Then they spend & spend over again till nothing's left. They do not consider about the future. What they are pursuing is the delight they will incur immediately.

They do not think about the consequenses. Those who partake in unsafe sex, criminality, and such things are added to  this grouping.

3 - They Speak and Babble A Great Deal More  Than They Listen.

They prefer to be the superstar of the show. So they always partake in dialogue that would brand them champions, even to the extent of falsifying

Oftentimes they are not cognisant that what they are saying is not wise any longer.

When others counsel them, they fold their ears because they're too haughty to accept their errors.

In their judgement they're all of the time right. They dismiss suggestions because that would declare them  deficient.

4 - They Throw In The Towel Easily.

Successful people process failures as stepping stones to achievement.

Incapable ones call it a day upon realising the first signals of failure.
Initially, they may be aroused to begin an activity. But and then they lose interest somewhat rapidly, particularly when they run into problems.

Then they depart & hunt for a new one. Same history & same outcomes. Bungling people do not have the perseverance to continue on and accomplish their aspirations.

5 - They Attempt To Drag Other People Down To Their Own Level.
 
Dysfunctional people begrudge other successful individuals. Rather than putting to work hard to be similar to them, these fumbling ones circulate rumors and try every foul trick to bring them down.

They could've enquired of those successful ones nicely. But no, they are too arrogant. They do not wish to request advise. Furthermore, they're too negative to attain anything.

6 - They Squander Their Time.

They do not recognise what to do next. They might simply be contented on feeding, becoming intoxicated, watching television, or worse, gazing at the blank wall without any ideas whatever to better their existence.

It is utterly fine to bask now and again. But time ought be handled expeditiously in order to succeed. There should be a right balance betwixt employment & pleasure.

 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out.

If there exists dual routes to select from, incapable people will select the broader route with lower advantages than the narrower route with a lot better payoffs at the finish.

They do not desire any discomfort or adversity. They want a sweet time.

What these people don't realise is that what you harvest is what you sow. Efforts & action won't pass unnoticed.

If only they would be amenable to sacrifice a bit, they would be a lot better off.

Successful people pulled through the trials, tribulations & errors. They do not give up. They were prepared to do everything essential, to accomplish what they aimed for in life.

by Rev.Bola A. (14.12.09)

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'63 Ways To Make Your Life As Difficult As Possible'

The best way to have and to lead, a very difficult and painful life, is for you to habitually keep and maintain, the following beliefs, feelings and attitudes:-

1. You believe that life is hard, and must always be hard!
2. You feel that a life filled with love, joy, and peace are unrealistic.
3. Anxiety, sadness, anger, disappointment, are your frequent companions.
4. You feel that one must struggle to survive, experiencing constant pain and uncertainty.
5. Those around you, are also constantly affected by your pain.
6. You avoid healing the issues of your heart.
In the Area of Forgiveness
7. Usually forgiveness, is the foundation for an abundant life of love, joy and peace.  However have never released the negative emotions, that come with unforgiveness, so as to live in peace and joy.
8. In your life, you tend to feel that others have hurt you, and you carry grudges and lingering bitterness towards them. You do not want to, or feel that you cannot forgive others. You also may not feel that you can forgive yourself.
In the area of Harmful Actions
9. You often do things that are ineffective and/or unhealthy to reduce anxiety and painful emotions.
10. You usually try to control other people’s emotions and behavior,ow though your o actions.
11. You often make choices based on selfishness or fear.
12. You choose not to establish, a foundation of healthy actions based on healthy goals and healthy choices, and you choose not to let go, of the harmful actions that keep you, from being who you really are.
In the area of Unhealthy Beliefs
13. You believe that your emotions and feelings are caused, by other people’s actions and feelings.
14. You harbor many negative emotions, and troublesome thoughts.
15. You don’t believe that you, or others around you, can have or deserve to have the best things in life.
16. You have a lot of unhealthy beliefs that are causing you stress, and may be affecting your health.
17. Even when you can choose to heal, by letting go of  unhealthy beliefs, to live a life of love and gratitude,  you choose not to, but to remain as you are.
In the area of Love
18. Your unhealthy beliefs about love cause you a lot of pain and suffering.
19. You constantly need approval from other people, and without it, you feel rejected or unlovable.
20. You are also afraid to love.
21. Even when you are presented with the choice, to heal your negative beliefs, about love and truth and to live in the energetic frequency of love, you choose not to.
In the area of Joy
22. You believe that joy and happiness come from possessions, or outside sources.
23. You work so hard to attain these, that you don’t have time for much fun or joy in your life.
24. You believe that other people’s behaviors and emotions, not your own, keep you from happiness or joy.
25. You often have a feeling of hopelessness.
26. Even when you are shown, that it is possible to find happiness and joy, by healing the negative emotions and memories that keep you stuck in hopelessness and sadness, you bluntly refuse to do so.
In the area of Peace
27. You believe that peace only comes, after achievement.
28. You believe, you don’t deserve peace because of your past behaviors or losses.
29. You worry that nothing can ever change, and that the future will be exactly like the past or worse.
30. Even when you are shown, that peace is attainable by changing and healing the beliefs that block you from peace, and see that your future is not tied to your past, you refuse to do so.
In the area of Patience
31. You tend to be easily frustrated or angry, when things don’t go the way you want them to go.
32. When you want something, you have trouble waiting for it.
33. Your goals are often rooted in selfishness, rather than in truth and love.
34. When you are frustrated or angry, you  turn to “love substitutes” such as eating, smoking, drinking,or some kind of escape activity which becomes an addiction.
35. Even though you can learn to set true love goals and find satisfaction and contentment in your life, you refuse to change.
In the area of Kindness
36. You might have experienced unkindness from those who were supposed to love you and treat you well, when you were growing up.
37. You now find it difficult to express kindness to yourself and/or to others, or to receive the kindness of other people.
38. You feel that people are too soft and therefore get their feelings hurt too easily, or that people will take advantage of you if you show them sensitivity.
39. You feel rejected by others and unworthy of kindness or love from others. So you either try and force them to love you, or you try to control their love.
40. Even though you can learn to receive and give kindness to others, and to accept people as they are, letting go of the pain and hurt of old rejections and unkindnesses, you refuse to do so.
In the area of Goodness
41. You may often feel that you are somehow flawed, not good enough or even bad.
42. You have a lot of fear, that if people really knew you, they wouldn’t like you at all.
43. You have a lot of guilt, for things you’ve done or omitted to do, or for things that have happened to you.
44. You find little or nothing to be grateful about in your life.
45. Even when you can learn to let go of the fear and unhealthy beliefs about yourself, and to feel at a deep level, that you are forgiven and worthy of love, you still refuse to do so.
In the area of Trust
46. You tend to expect the worst from situations and/or from people.
47. You constantly worry about the future.
48. You believe that life is not fair especially to you.
49. You usually need to be in control, both of situations and of people.
50. You distrust most people despite ny evidence to the contrary.
51. Even when you can learn to trust yourself and others, and to release your unhealthy cellular memories, you refuse to do so.
In the area of Humility
52. You have a low opinion of yourself or you feel as though you are better than others.
53. You don’t believe in your true self. You don't believe in love.
54. You have trouble achieving success, or you do manipulative things to get people to think well of you.
55. Even when shown that you can let go of the guilt, shame or wrongful pride that are caused by old negative cellular memories, you refuse to let go.
In the area of Self Control
56. You have a high need for control or you feel as though you are out of control.
57. You feel as though you are not capable of managing your own life, and constantly expect and require others to do things for you
58. You feel as though you are entitled to have things your way.
59. Even when you can let go of old harmful beliefs and toxic cellular memories, and you can live your life empowered by truth and love; you still refuse to do so.
60. You find life difficult and filled with problems.
61. You often feel frustrated and unsuccessful.
62. You struggle with questions of faith and feel a great deal of stress.
63. Unforgiveness/forgiveness are the most critical issues in your life. Unforgiveness, is usually at the root of any problem you experience.

Now to let you in on a secret about unforgiveness: it often hides behind anger, fear, sadness, and other things like that. So if you think you don’t have unforgiveness issues ask yourself, “Who do I feel some anger related to, or sadness, or fear?” You’ll usually find unforgiveness at the bottom of those things. Unforgiveness issues can be toward self.

They can be toward other people. They can be toward God. Or, they can be in reverse of that. They can be feeling like God has not or will not forgive me. Feeling like other people have not forgiven me whether they have or not. Any of those can be the crucial cellular memory that blocks our health or blocks our success. This unforgiveness and the memories that contain this unforgiveness block our healing. They block our success. Why? Because they are destructive memories that are not truth and love. They are lies and selfishness.

It’s interesting too, that the actual word “forgiveness” if you look back to the original language means to “cut the rope” or “untie the rope.” So unforgiveness means we are literally tied to the thing that we refuse to forgive or to the person.

The foundation for an abundant life of love, joy and peace is forgiveness. Releasing our unforgiveness is absolutely essential for healing and for success. So, to have a difficult and painful life, and to have it continue being that way; you would have remain unforgiving, and you to continue maintaining and defending that unforgiveness.

By Rev.Bola A.(25Nov09)
Holy Spirit Services - Int.

'25 Ways To An Unhealthy Body'

One of the best ways to resist your health and become very unhealthy, is by means of food absorption. This is a very good place to start, because you have so many options for creating an unhealthy body. Here then, are some tips regarding your intake of food and drink.

To have an unhealthy body....
1. Never ever watch what you eat. Just eat whatever comes your way.
2. Consume lots and lots of sugary food and beverages.
3. Eat an unbalanced diet. For example only carbohydrates, or only protein, or only starch. A staple diet is a no-no.
4. Drink lots and lots of alcohol on a regular basis, at least 3 times a day.
5. Drink less water than your body needs. Better still never drink water, just stick to canned pop soda, with added artificial flavoring and additives.
Another option is to only drink lots of coffee and tea, so as to intake as much caffeine as possible.
6. Avoid eating any fruit or vegetables whatsoever.
7. Either eat a lot more than your body needs, or starve your body.
8. Maintain a diet of just biscuits, crisps and chocolate.
9. Deprive your body of sleep. Sleep at irregular times only.
10. Avoid exercising your body. Prohibit yourself from all forms of exercising.
11. Eat only foods that are long past their 'sell by' date.
12. Cut out as many vitamins and minerals from your diet as possible.
13. Avoid brushing your teeth every day.
14. Hold on to negative feelings and emotions. Never see a counselor or therapist if you are under emotional strain.
15. Take on as much stress as possible. Engage with people and activities that give you stress and problems. Never set any boundaries.
16. Cultivate as many addictions as possible; drug addiction, alcoholism, workaholism, codependency, relationship addiction.
17. Never seek or accept help or treatment for an addiction. Allow the addiction to control your life.
18. Think negative thoughts frequently, especially towards yourself.
19. Avoid any positive people, spend most of your time with negative people.
20. If you get sick or experience any symptoms, you must avoid seeing a doctor, or any health practitioner. Just ignore the symptoms and hope they will go away of their own accord.
21. Only bathe or wash very infrequently, no more than once a month. Better still never bathe or wash at all.
22. Never wash your hands after you have been to the lavatory.
23. Have lots of unprotected sex, with lots of different partners. Avoid using condoms.
24. Accumulate lots of resentment, anger, fear and bitterness towards others, and towards life in general. After you've been through a rough patch, dwell on it constantly.
25. Live only in your past regrets, or in your future anxieties. Avoid living in the 'now' or being present. Live a generally disorderly, unhappy spiritually bankrupt life, and most of all refuse to change.

Persisting with these steps, is a surefire way of getting sick and creating an unhealthy life for yourself.

by Rev.Bola (copyright 18.9.09 - ARR)

Abundant Life Ministries

'How Not To Be Happy, in 10 Easy Steps'

by Rev.Bola A

With my hand on my heart and my tongue in my cheek, I confess myself, to be an experienced Master of Enlightenment (...or would that be 'Mistress' of the same, on account of my being a female? I leave that question to the vivid imagination of the enquirer.)

So far my current life's purpose has been, to pass on, the energetic frequency of enlightenment to others, and to help channel further healing, love and clarity, into this robust and wonderful planet earth. My life's objective, is to assist all willing sentient beings, who actively and willingly desire it (and only those who actually do ask for my assistance on this matter,) to attain enlightened.

I have received an anointing by the Holy Spirit, to pass on to other sentient beings, that wish for a born again spirit. I encourage others, to come experience the undying, uncompromising, unconditional love of our Creator. This I do, by way of my inspired visionary poems, writings, prayer art, music, individual and group spiritual coaching, faith, and distant healing.
Summarized below, are the quickest and easiest steps to, not being happy:-

1. Constantly break all the 10 Commandments
2. Totally Believe that you are, just a piece of animated meat, without a soul or a heart.
3. Fill yourself with constant doses of fear,horror, guilt, rage violence and shame on a daily basis.
4. Eat only unhealthy food and make sure your diet is completely out of balance. and never ever, include minerals or vitamins in any of your diets.
5. Actively sort after and feed yourself with every lethal addiction under the sun, focussing specifically on drug addiction, sex addiction, and money addiction.
6. Accumulate debt that you know you can't afford to pay back, and then ignore all your creditors. Blame them for getting you into your financial problems.
7. Buy everything by credit, and run up all your credit cards to the max.
8. Spend twice as much as you earn, and never ever save for a rainy day.
9. Make a habit of never showing any appreciation or gratitude, for anything good that's done for you, or that comes to you in life, just criticize and undermine anything good or positive.
10. Never ever say the words 'thank you' for an act of service, or a favor done for you by another. Never own up and say 'I am sorry', when you know you are clearly in the wrong. Just judge, invalidate, and argue indiscriminately, in favor of your own rightness, while making others completely wrong. Instead, blame all your mistakes on others, especially the most innocent or vulnerable people, with the least involvement or knowledge, of the issue at hand.

I guarantee that, following these 10 steps persistently, is a sure fire way, to remain very unhappy indeed. As I explained earlier, I have 'mastered' these matters, and I am well experienced in them. Trust me. Act like this and you will definitely get the results.

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