1. You believe that life is hard, and must always be hard!
2. You feel that a life filled with love, joy, and peace are unrealistic.
3. Anxiety, sadness, anger, disappointment, are your frequent companions.
4. You feel that one must struggle to survive, experiencing constant pain and uncertainty.
5. Those around you, are also constantly affected by your pain.
6. You avoid healing the issues of your heart.
In the Area of Forgiveness
7. Usually forgiveness, is the foundation for an abundant life of love, joy and peace. However have never released the negative emotions, that come with unforgiveness, so as to live in peace and joy.
8. In your life, you tend to feel that others have hurt you, and you carry grudges and lingering bitterness towards them. You do not want to, or feel that you cannot forgive others. You also may not feel that you can forgive yourself.
In the area of Harmful Actions
9. You often do things that are ineffective and/or unhealthy to reduce anxiety and painful emotions.
10. You usually try to control other people’s emotions and behavior,ow though your o actions.
11. You often make choices based on selfishness or fear.
12. You choose not to establish, a foundation of healthy actions based on healthy goals and healthy choices, and you choose not to let go, of the harmful actions that keep you, from being who you really are.
In the area of Unhealthy Beliefs
13. You believe that your emotions and feelings are caused, by other people’s actions and feelings.
14. You harbor many negative emotions, and troublesome thoughts.
15. You don’t believe that you, or others around you, can have or deserve to have the best things in life.
16. You have a lot of unhealthy beliefs that are causing you stress, and may be affecting your health.
17. Even when you can choose to heal, by letting go of unhealthy beliefs, to live a life of love and gratitude, you choose not to, but to remain as you are.
In the area of Love
18. Your unhealthy beliefs about love cause you a lot of pain and suffering.
19. You constantly need approval from other people, and without it, you feel rejected or unlovable.
20. You are also afraid to love.
21. Even when you are presented with the choice, to heal your negative beliefs, about love and truth and to live in the energetic frequency of love, you choose not to.
In the area of Joy
22. You believe that joy and happiness come from possessions, or outside sources.
23. You work so hard to attain these, that you don’t have time for much fun or joy in your life.
24. You believe that other people’s behaviors and emotions, not your own, keep you from happiness or joy.
25. You often have a feeling of hopelessness.
26. Even when you are shown, that it is possible to find happiness and joy, by healing the negative emotions and memories that keep you stuck in hopelessness and sadness, you bluntly refuse to do so.
In the area of Peace
27. You believe that peace only comes, after achievement.
28. You believe, you don’t deserve peace because of your past behaviors or losses.
29. You worry that nothing can ever change, and that the future will be exactly like the past or worse.
30. Even when you are shown, that peace is attainable by changing and healing the beliefs that block you from peace, and see that your future is not tied to your past, you refuse to do so.
In the area of Patience
31. You tend to be easily frustrated or angry, when things don’t go the way you want them to go.
32. When you want something, you have trouble waiting for it.
33. Your goals are often rooted in selfishness, rather than in truth and love.
34. When you are frustrated or angry, you turn to “love substitutes” such as eating, smoking, drinking,or some kind of escape activity which becomes an addiction.
35. Even though you can learn to set true love goals and find satisfaction and contentment in your life, you refuse to change.
In the area of Kindness
36. You might have experienced unkindness from those who were supposed to love you and treat you well, when you were growing up.
37. You now find it difficult to express kindness to yourself and/or to others, or to receive the kindness of other people.
38. You feel that people are too soft and therefore get their feelings hurt too easily, or that people will take advantage of you if you show them sensitivity.
39. You feel rejected by others and unworthy of kindness or love from others. So you either try and force them to love you, or you try to control their love.
40. Even though you can learn to receive and give kindness to others, and to accept people as they are, letting go of the pain and hurt of old rejections and unkindnesses, you refuse to do so.
In the area of Goodness
41. You may often feel that you are somehow flawed, not good enough or even bad.
42. You have a lot of fear, that if people really knew you, they wouldn’t like you at all.
43. You have a lot of guilt, for things you’ve done or omitted to do, or for things that have happened to you.
44. You find little or nothing to be grateful about in your life.
45. Even when you can learn to let go of the fear and unhealthy beliefs about yourself, and to feel at a deep level, that you are forgiven and worthy of love, you still refuse to do so.
In the area of Trust
46. You tend to expect the worst from situations and/or from people.
47. You constantly worry about the future.
48. You believe that life is not fair especially to you.
49. You usually need to be in control, both of situations and of people.
50. You distrust most people despite ny evidence to the contrary.
51. Even when you can learn to trust yourself and others, and to release your unhealthy cellular memories, you refuse to do so.
In the area of Humility
52. You have a low opinion of yourself or you feel as though you are better than others.
53. You don’t believe in your true self. You don't believe in love.
54. You have trouble achieving success, or you do manipulative things to get people to think well of you.
55. Even when shown that you can let go of the guilt, shame or wrongful pride that are caused by old negative cellular memories, you refuse to let go.
In the area of Self Control
56. You have a high need for control or you feel as though you are out of control.
57. You feel as though you are not capable of managing your own life, and constantly expect and require others to do things for you
58. You feel as though you are entitled to have things your way.
59. Even when you can let go of old harmful beliefs and toxic cellular memories, and you can live your life empowered by truth and love; you still refuse to do so.
60. You find life difficult and filled with problems.
61. You often feel frustrated and unsuccessful.
62. You struggle with questions of faith and feel a great deal of stress.
63. Unforgiveness/forgiveness are the most critical issues in your life. Unforgiveness, is usually at the root of any problem you experience.
Now to let you in on a secret about unforgiveness: it often hides behind anger, fear, sadness, and other things like that. So if you think you don’t have unforgiveness issues ask yourself, “Who do I feel some anger related to, or sadness, or fear?” You’ll usually find unforgiveness at the bottom of those things. Unforgiveness issues can be toward self.
They can be toward other people. They can be toward God. Or, they can be in reverse of that. They can be feeling like God has not or will not forgive me. Feeling like other people have not forgiven me whether they have or not. Any of those can be the crucial cellular memory that blocks our health or blocks our success. This unforgiveness and the memories that contain this unforgiveness block our healing. They block our success. Why? Because they are destructive memories that are not truth and love. They are lies and selfishness.
It’s interesting too, that the actual word “forgiveness” if you look back to the original language means to “cut the rope” or “untie the rope.” So unforgiveness means we are literally tied to the thing that we refuse to forgive or to the person.
The foundation for an abundant life of love, joy and peace is forgiveness. Releasing our unforgiveness is absolutely essential for healing and for success. So, to have a difficult and painful life, and to have it continue being that way; you would have remain unforgiving, and you to continue maintaining and defending that unforgiveness.
By Rev.Bola A.(25Nov09)
Holy Spirit Services - Int.
